Pamela Silva Gets Real About Motherhood and Social Media on Her New Podcast
The Peruvian TV host embraces the power of vulnerability in an honest discussion of motherhood and social media in her new podcast Motherish, with Facebook executive and fellow mom Karen Comas.
Primer Impacto co-host Pamela Silva has teamed up with Facebook executive Karen Comas for the new podcast Motherish, where they share experiences as first-time moms. During the first episode of the weekly podcast, taped from Pamela's garage at home in Miami, the Peruvian journalist talked about how watching her son stirs up all kinds of emotions.
"My son is actually sitting up by himself, he's almost there, which is so exciting but it also broke my heart because I saw him and it just reminded me how independent he is," she said about baby Ford, who is 6 months old. "It was two milestones or high points, he is sitting up and he has his first little tooth coming out. He's still a baby obviously but it just hit me how fast he is growing and it got me very emotional."
The moms also discussed social media and motherhood. "When you become a new parent, a new mom, what you post you want it all to be wonderful, amazing, and magical and symbolic of what you think motherhood should be like, when the reality sometimes is very different from what you're posting about how you're feeling," Silva shared. She revealed she felt mommy guilt after going back to work when her son was four months old, and related to a post that Comas shared on social media where she was honest and vulnerable about "a lot of the dark moments" she faced during her postpartum experience. "That was the first time that I really connected to you," she said about Comas. "There is such a large spectrum of different ways that you can feel," Comas added.
Comas, mom to 19-month-old Victoria, added that the first time she showered after coming home from the hospital she broke down crying. "I ended up having this massive breakdown in the shower. I had a C-section, I couldn't even dry my legs, I was just so frustrated. I don't know why I feel so sad," she recalled. "It was this pessimistic, dark voice in my head all the time." Silva said it's time for the general public to get over the mom-shaming and show support to other moms who struggle with the many demands of child-caring.
Coma said she got professional help to help her deal with anxiety, adding that opening up about her experience on social media helped her and other moms who read her posts. "Your mid-pandemic, you're stuck at home, you have this newborn, it's a lot," Silva, who identifies as a single mom, said. "I have my sister, my mother, and my girlfriends, and I am shamelessly asking for help all the time. It has made a huge difference emotionally, physically, it has allowed me to enjoy it. When I have my hard moments that are tough, I'm very proactive about preventing having a breakdown. I've had my share, definitely. I think that's the point of this podcast, to share that human side. We struggle. Motherhood is challenging but also amazing."